When someone has a baby there are a few things you really should avoid saying and even thinking for that matter.  Just take your gift, love, listening ear and perhaps some yummy healthy food for mama. We all have different experiences and babies so refrain from giving generic advice or passing on a ridiculously sounding wives’ tale especially when you are visiting a new mum for the first time! It just is not helpful.

Whenever I heard ridiculous advice or comments I just remained silent or got defensive, I hope no mama has to endure judgemental and annoying comments and if you do receive them, tell yourself it’s not me it’s them.

1. You look tired (no sh*t Sherlock)

2. Is baby eating enough? Are you feeding enough? Looks a bit slim.

3. You really should bottle feed OR You really should breastfeed (it’s the mother’s choice please don’t be judgemental)

4. When are you going to start exercising?

5. Don’t hold your baby all the time, you’ll spoil them

6. So what school are they going to?

7. You really should be up and about by now, I was by day 2