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Amaliah Presents: Beauty Monologues – In Partnership With Dove × Refinery29

by in Identity on 15th October, 2020

Angelica, Beauty Monologue 001 #DovexRefinery29

How do you see yourself?

Have you ever felt beautiful?


This article is in partnership with Dove x Refinery29 find out more about their work here*


Presenting Beauty Monologues, in partnership with Dove and Refinery29 where we speak to the Amaliah community about beauty, acceptance, self-esteem and body confidence.

As we grow up we realise that there are so many ideals and blueprints pushed onto us. You wouldn’t be at fault for trying to chase these ideals, trying to hide parts of yourself or change yourself to ‘fit in’. We see those ideals, literally everywhere, upheld across industries, advertising, film, TV and media. We internalise that it is aspirational to fit into that ideal be it about skin colour, hair type, facial features, body types, your beliefs, the career you have (or don’t have) or how you live your life.

At Amaliah and Dove, we believe that we reach our full potential when we are living beyond these ideals! And so over the next few weeks on our Instagram, you will be hearing from Angelica, Noha and Saina about how they are rewriting their own definitions of beauty, finding acceptance and really getting to know themselves.

Beauty Monologue 001 / Angelica

Angelica, Beauty Monologue 001 #DovexRefinery29

“Growing up I lived in the shadow of my two older sisters who were the most magical beings I have ever seen. My mother was a queen in my eyes and I worried that I wouldn’t bud the way she had hoped.”

– Angelica @villageauntie, Beauty Monologue 001

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Have you ever thought of yourself as beautiful?✨ Presenting Beauty Monologues, in partnership with @dove and @refinery29uk. We speak to women in the Amaliah community about beauty, acceptance, self-esteem and body confidence. / BEAUTY MONOLOGUE 001 @villageauntie “Growing up I lived in the shadow of my two older sisters who were the most magical beings I have ever seen. My mother was a queen in my eyes and I worried that I wouldn’t bud the way she had hoped. As young women, we explode onto the landscape of the world just as a flower bud reveals its petals, seemingly overnight. I had a perpetual fear of not being the proper flower in her garden. I had prepared for my inevitable unfurling for years. We try to fit into the scripts for women: delicate, pretty, small. But I then realised, that beauty manifests in a myriad of ways, just like the different flowers in a garden. When I reached a height of 5 ft 9 at the age of 15, I understood then that I would never be seen as “dainty”.  I learned to embrace my unique process of growth. My sisters became mirrors through which I could see a brighter vision of myself. My self-esteem was not dependent upon fitting into the scripted beauty standards of women. I came to understand then, and I affirm now, that the best way to embrace my beauty is to allow it to bloom at its own unique pace. When given the fertile ground of love, light, and self-awareness, I understood how to truly live as a full, free, and expansive woman.” AD #DovexRefinery29 – *every now and then we partner with companies to bring you content paid for by them. This helps us keep going at Amaliah. We strive to ensure we maintain the same editorial integrity that keeps you engaged in our non-sponsored content 💕 #selfesteem #sisterhood

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Read Angelica’s full Monologue over on our Instagram 

Angelica, Beauty Monologue 001 #DovexRefinery29

Beauty Monologue 002 / Noha

Noha, Beauty Monologue 002 #DovexRefinery29

“Now my beauty is defined by everything that makes me who I am.”

– Noha @intibint, Beauty Monologue 002

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“We are all meant to feel beauty.”✨ Presenting Beauty Monologues, in partnership with the @dove and @refinery29uk. We speak to women in the Amaliah community about beauty, acceptance, self-esteem and body confidence. / BEAUTY MONOLOGUE 002 @intibint I found beauty when I realised I need to find my own definition. When I was younger, so much around me was telling me that I, unfortunately, missed the mark when it came to beauty, from the women on TV to the white-passing women deemed the most ‘beautiful’ women in my own community. But I realised that beauty isn’t something that should be reserved for one type, we all are meant to feel beauty. A definition that didn’t leave me feeling backwards because of the perception of my religion or ugly because of the hair on my body. One that didn’t make me want to straighten my curls and feel unwelcome because of where I am from. A definition that didn’t make me want to hide parts of myself. Now my beauty is defined by everything that makes me who I am. My experiences and all the magnificent lessons I have been blessed to learn. The growth that comes from hardships, mistakes, bad decisions and forgiving myself and others. We are all unique beings with our own stories, backgrounds and experiences, these are the parts of ourselves that make us beautiful and connecting with them is a requisite to building our self-esteem. Through kindness, we can allow ourselves to look past all that the world has told us makes us not good enough. We can forgive ourselves for time spent not loving our imperfections and trying to change them. We can find our own unique definition of beauty and continue to build on what that means to us as individuals. We can be reminded that beauty is not reserved to one group and we are all meant to feel beauty." AD #DovexRefinery29 #selfesteem #sisterhood – *every now and then we partner with companies to bring you content paid for by them. This helps us keep going at Amaliah. We strive to ensure we maintain the same editorial integrity that keeps you engaged in our non-sponsored content 💕

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Noha, Beauty Monologue 002 #DovexRefinery29

Beauty Monologue 003 /Saina

Saina, Beauty Monologue 003 #DovexRefinery29

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Ain’t I a beauty? ✨Presenting Beauty Monologues, in partnership with @dove and @refinery29uk. We speak to women in the Amaliah community about beauty, acceptance, self-esteem and body confidence. / BEAUTY MONOLOGUE 003 @callmesaina "Ain’t I a Beauty? As a fat, dark skin Black woman, too often I am stripped of my femininity because I do not fit into the commonly held standards of beauty. I realised that for years I actually had no idea of what I looked like. I was constantly viewing myself from another gaze. I was squeezing myself into ideals that were not for me. It’s cliché but my first memory of acknowledging my beauty is sitting on the floor in my room getting ready for my yr. 12 prom. That was the first time I really looked at myself and said ‘Sis you’re actually cute yunno’. Sitting in front of a mirror helped me see what I actually looked like. It was an opportunity to match my outward appearance with how I see myself. Putting on makeup was an opportunity to really embrace and emphasise these ‘new’ features I found and each time I learnt about and loved a new part of my face. It was the first time in my life I was presenting myself how I choose, rather than how I thought others wanted me to appear. I realised that no matter if you try to assimilate or actively reject social standards, somebody somewhere will not approve of your choice and how you exist. So embody every choice you make and do it with full confidence. Like a snake shedding its skin each year, I change my look, explore new makeup, hair and art, to unlock new levels of Saina. I think that continued growth and exploration of myself has allowed me to see the best (and sometimes the worst) parts of myself both physically and mentally and spiritually and learned to love it all. I think that is the moment when true confidence appears." AD #DovexRefinery29 #sisterhood #selfesteem – *every now and then we partner with companies to bring you content paid for by them. This helps us keep going at Amaliah. We strive to ensure we maintain the same editorial integrity that keeps you engaged in our non-sponsored content 💕

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“I realised that for years I actually had no idea of what I looked like.

I was constantly viewing myself from another gaze. I was squeezing myself into ideals that were not for me.”

– Saina @callmesaina, Beauty Monologue 003

Saina, Beauty Monologue 003 #DovexRefinery29

Head over to our Instagram to read the rest of the monologues over the next few weeks and share your ideas of beauty with us.


*Every now and then we partner with companies to bring you sponsored content, this helps us keep going at Amaliah. We strive to ensure we maintain the same editorial integrity that keeps you engaged in our non-sponsored content.

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