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The Lessons From Hajj That Changed My Life

by in Identity on 1st July, 2021

Hajj is a life-changing experience in the life of a Muslim. It is a pillar of Islam, meaning it is one of a Muslim’s obligations to Allah. Yet not every Muslim gets the chance or even chooses to undertake this journey of a lifetime. AlHamdulillah, I got a chance to go on Hajj when I accompanied my parents several years ago at the tender age of 17. Even though I was barely out of my teens, the experience of spending 21 days in the desert and completing the time-honored rituals was thrilling to say the least. But as I grew up and moved on in life, I longed to repeat my Hajj, to shun worldly life for a few days and immerse myself in trying to absorb the meaning and essence of this journey again.

Alhamdulillah, Allah blessed me once again with that second chance a little over 10 years ago when I accompanied my husband on that year’s Hajj.

When we reached our hotel room after the Tawaf-Al-Ifadah (the Hajj tawaf) and the accompanying Sa’ee, I collapsed on my bed. My wish had come true – I had performed another Hajj! Yet several thoughts rankled my mind. Had I attempted all the rituals satisfactorily? Would my Hajj be accepted? The more I thought about it, the more I began to reflect on the rationale behind performing the rituals of Hajj. Why did Allah require us believers at least once in a lifetime to visit His house, circumambulate the Ka’bah, run between the hills As-Safa and Al-Marwa and meditate in Arafat and Mina? Surely there was a purpose behind these actions. What daily lessons was He trying to instill in us through the rituals of Hajj? At that very moment, I decided to jot down all that I learnt from my Hajj experience that year, the lessons that I took while performing tawaf and sa’ee, meditating in Mina and Arafat, spending time in Muzdalifah and stoning the jamraat, in the hope of sharing what I learnt. The following lessons are the ones that have stuck with me the most:

Lessons of Tawaf

  1. Begin (everything) in Allah’s name.
  2. The Kabah is directionless, pointing to no particular direction. Yet just as we keep it as the centrepoint of our tawaf, it directs us to keep religion as the centrepoint and the focus of our lives.
  3. Strive in the sea of humanity, among people of different nations, colours, races, languages but maintain your own unique identity.
  4. Just as people from one end can push you (physically in tawaf), in life, they can mentally push your limits and test your patience, your knowledge, put limits on your time, your resources etc. Patiently put up with them – you will triumph in the end.
  5. Show compassion (by giving way) to the old and very young. Empathise with them. Treat them well.
  6. Protect your women, young and old.
  7. As you hold fast to dua’as and dhikr during tawaf, hold fast to righteousness in your life.
  8. As you circumambulate, there are points when you can experience suffocation, because of the crowds. I compare this to times of desperation, anxiety, worry and frustration in life, but if you keep patiently persisting with prayer as opposed to huffing, puffing and jostling your way forward, you will notice the crowd thinning out or a gap emerging from nowhere in front of you and that gives a release of fresh air, a breather and you feel refreshed, relieved from tensions and worries.
  9. Men and women are equal in the sight of Allah with an equal responsibility and role in life as a Muslim.
  10. Simplicity in dress/appearance and purity of intention, heart and mind and body are obligatory for total purity in life.

Lessons of Sa’ee

  1. Where there is a will, there is a way – a demonstration of Hajar’s will, trust and reliance on Allah, patience and perseverance paid off with the shooting up of the stream of Zamzam for her child.
  2. Utmost trust and reliance on Allah at every point in life is crucial to success in this life and also for peace of mind.
  3. Equality between men and women in the sight of Allah with equal role and responsibility.

Lessons in Mina/Arafat/Muzdalifah

  1. Practice patience when your needs/wishes are not met or get delayed.
  2. Enforcing equality among the sexes and with each other as we all use the same toilets, tents, bedding and other general facilities despite our financial differences and family backgrounds.
  3. Learning to adapt as we lived in minimally-hygenic conditions or totally different conditions from what we are used to/brought up in.
  4. Muzdalifah is a training for death. You lie on the bare ground in minimum comfort wearing simple clothes, just like the clothes you wear when you will die and be buried.

Lessons of Ramee

  1. When you give up the little pleasures of life for the sake of Allah, remember the sacrifice of Prophet Ibrahim and how he was ready to kill his son at the command of his Lord. How readily can we bring ourselves to attempt something similar?
  2. Fight your nafs/the devil with all your might. It will be there to deter you at every turn of your life.

These were some of the thoughts that assailed my mind that contented morning. However, they weren’t the only lessons I picked up from this crash course in life that is the journey of Hajj. During the 4 days of Hajj, we are thrown into a potpourri of cultures, to witness so much that is so very different from what we are used to but we endeavour to display our best behaviour, just to please our Creator and earn His reward.

As Allah [SWT] tells us in the Qur’an:

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you.” (Surah Hujjurat, Verse 13)

From a worldly perspective, with all the luxuries and facilities that are available at so many people’s beck and call in this modern age, Hajj is proof of the fact that it is possible to live with the bare minimum: simple living, high thinking. Learning to live this way will lead to a de-cluttered, less materialistically oriented life. By setting aside time to contemplate in quietness each day, Hajj is a time to pray together and also get prayed for. It is the ultimate test of our patience and an excellent teacher of tolerance. With travel as its backbone, Hajj broadens our understanding of religion and peoples and urges us to practice righteousness in our lives. For the specially-chosen guests of God each year, Hajj is a reminder that life may be a struggle in different ways but it always made easy with patience and with the help of prayer. Yes, Hajj teaches us a great deal about life. In fact, the lessons from this marvellous journey are so numerous and so enlightening that I would urge all my Muslim brothers and sisters not to put it off till old age but to plan for this journey in their youth itself.

May Allah help us to achieve this dream, Ameen!

Lisha Abdul Rehman

Lisha Abdul Rehman

Lisha Abdul Rehman is a freelance writer and published children's author who resides in Doha, Qatar. Writing is her passionate hobby and she has had scores of articles, features and stories published in children's and women's magazines in the UAE, Bahrain and India. Her other interests include volunteering to teach Islamic Studies to little minds and hearts and baking/cooking up a storm to feed her forever-hungry boys. You can follow her work on: https://www.facebook.com/lishazad