We asked our audience to share their love stories, tales of chance meetings, intentional steps, and everything in between. What came back was a mosaic of experiences, each unique yet equally exciting. Some spoke of stolen glances that turned into lifetimes together, others of introductions carefully arranged by family, and many of friendships that slowly unfolded into love.

This is our twelfth story.

Please note that these stories are not for giving advice and are about documenting the lives of Muslim women who got married 🧡

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A&K

Did you meet online?

No.

Please share how you and your husband first met?

We first met at work in 2022. We worked in different departments and crossed paths occasionally, but neither of us had any thoughts about the other. We would walk past each other and bump into one another, but there was never any conversation whatsoever.

At the end of 2023, he started working from home, so I hadn’t seen him for some time. Then, in November 2024, he returned to the office, and we ended up sitting near each other. I could not sit through the awkwardness anymore – he’s super introverted and doesn’t really talk to anyone – so I decided to start a conversation.

As I spoke to him, I saw his eyes sparkle. He never expected to meet someone with such similar interests, and even I was taken by surprise. That conversation was the moment he decided he was going to marry me, although he didn’t tell me how he felt until February 2025.

How many times did you meet in person before you got married?

We saw each other at work daily, but there were three formal meetings involving our families.

How did your relationship evolve? What made you realise that he was the one, and when did you decide to get married?

Initially, he fell for me after just one conversation because he believed I was the most interesting girl he had ever met, which still surprises me! We talked via text for nearly two months, and he later told me that he had started praying for us to be together from the very beginning.

I didn’t realise my own feelings until around two months into talking to him. We spoke about general things and subtly discussed marriage without openly exposing our feelings for each other. For example, we would frame questions hypothetically, saying things like, “If you were to marry…”

In February 2025, I finally told him that I had developed a “crush” on him, and he said he felt the same. That was when we started talking seriously about marriage and telling our parents so we could move forward with the next steps.

I realised he was the one because he had all the characteristics I had ever wanted in a husband. He is someone who prays and reads the Quran daily, is emotionally intelligent, soft-spoken, and kind-hearted towards everyone. He also makes sure that we communicate properly.

It took us a little while to get our parents involved because we come from different cultures. However, once everyone met, everything ran smoothly. It was honestly the easiest process ever, and we decided to get married in 2026.

What are your thoughts on premarital counselling? Did you get any?

I did not receive any premarital counselling. However, I can see its importance, as it can provide a better understanding of boundaries, responsibilities, finances, and other crucial aspects of marriage. I think it can help couples approach marriage with greater strength and understanding. If a couple lacks communication, I also think premarital counselling could be really helpful.

Has your perception of love changed before vs after marriage?

Yes. I never thought I could love someone, or that I could be loved. After experiencing love from a man who has so much to give, I realised the true meaning of it.

What was the main thing you were looking for in a spouse?

I was looking for someone with similar religious values, who was good at communicating, emotionally intelligent, and a good listener. Looks-wise, I always imagined myself with someone with curly hair, aha!

What are three green flags Muslim women should look out for?

Good character, good at communicating and similar religious values.

What are three red flags Muslim women should look out for?

Controlling behaviour, someone who doesn’t take accountability and anyone who is financially irresponsible.