Piles of plates and crumbs everywhere. Oh, how Ramadan has changed for us.
Long nights at Taraweeh turn to long nights with the baby, a full nights sleep has always been a distant memory, breastfeeding and wondering will they ever unlatch so you can catch Fajr, 30 minutes pass and so you pass out too, wake up startled and need to make wudu. Tired, Alone. Ramadan and You. Bucket collections, soup kitchens, supporting events throughout the city all a pleasant memory of the blessing of ‘free time’ filled now with laundry, rhymes, cooking and raising these mini Muslims, the future ummah.
- Extra acts of worship, difficult.
- Perspective change, possible.
- Intentions reviewed, definitely doable.
Start with the small things like sweeping up those crumbs with the right intentions or having Dhikr on your tongue as you feed the baby through the night. Crumbs may take you to Jannah mama.
It’s hard I know, it’s different that’s for sure. Comparison is the thief of joy, compare not to days gone by. Focus afresh with a new lens. It’s different and this Ramadan is going to be the best yet. It is, we have just started.
I’m going to tell you something, an observation. We sometimes spend ‘too’ much time trying to ‘make Ramadan’ magical for our kids because we want them to realise what Ramadan is but the biggest gift and the most magical is giving yourself Ramadan, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Coming out the other side a better Muslim which can only make you a better parent. Ramadan is for you. Give yourself a shot this Ramadan. Put yourself first when you can.
Mama, you got this. #ramadanmama it’s not easy but it’s worth it.
How will it be for you?
Whether you are a new Mama or seasoned, Ramadan can be challenging. The last few Ramadans for me
The last few Ramadans for me have been difficult in terms of reconciling that I was unable to fast, and undeniably you feel a sadness.
I have been pregnant or fully breastfeeding a newborn for the last few years and Ramadan is not what it used to be Subhan Allah. I took time to understand the position Allah had put me in and worked to find the positives and understood Allah’s love and mercy towards mothers. I also changed my perspective and stopped comparing myself to others. My acts of worship changed and so did my motivations. As a mother, I know I need to improve my character in order to leave a positive impact on my children.
If you are still struggling to reconcile your new role and Ramadan, I hugely would like to encourage you to read the article below too In sha Allah, it helped me totally change my perspective.
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