How many have you taken the Myers Briggs test and clung to friends and careers through those 4 initials ascribed to you? We navigate life in search of what defines us and much of that is what we absorb from others as well as what we seek.
Starting in our early years, we’re labelled as naughty or nice. Loved ones will tell us we’re sensitive. Teachers will tell us we’re loud. Colleagues and bosses will tell us we’re lazy, and these all form part of the story we tell ourselves throughout our lives. We use these labels to observe our roles and our importance in relation to the world around us, and thus life becomes a game of picking and dodging those attributes that do and don’t serve us – the key is in knowing which ones are which.
Ultimately, to be free of any egoic self-labelling is the most liberating state, and one that many strive their entire lives to achieve. It’s saintly work! It requires constant introspection and mindfulness that many of us who are juggling the everyday highs and lows of life find ourselves unable to apply ourselves to wholly. Absorbing labels that impact our self-perception in a negative way can trickle down into how we practice our routines, our rituals – even our religion.
In this weeks episode of two sense, Selina discusses the detrimental nature of labels and when to know it’s the right time to ditch them. Nafisa’s post (see below) about her relationship with the day Arafah, explains why absoribing a label could have prevented her from seeking it once upon a time…
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I haven't always been practicing of my faith and often the story I told myself held me back from living Islam day to day. I put myself low down on the "religiosity spectrum" and that meant that I didn't see some acts and things like day of Arafah as something for "me". I know that doesn't fully make sense but I know a lot of you will get what I mean. So if that feels like you, I want to tell you that tomorrow is the day of Arafah and it's for everyone. It's for everyone to find forgiveness and the mercy of Allah. No pre requisite required just you and an open heart submitting to your Lord. p.s if you head over to @amaliah_com stories there is an explainer of the importance of day of Arafah so do have a read 💕 Wishing you all a blessed day of Arafah ✨ // Taraweeh in Medina
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In this episode the ladies are also discussing the intriguing politics of clothing pockets, why your 20s might not be your defining decade and why acquiring knowledge isn’t always the most noble of ventures…
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