We know when it comes to ‘big sis’ energy the Amaliah community has got our back, whenever we ask for advice there’s deen, there’s dunya, there’s f-boy advice and getting that bag! We decided to ask the Twitter Amaliah community back in August last year what advice you’d give to your younger Muslim self, and here are some of the gems you shared:
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Look after your Salah and it will look after you.
The Deen is truly a lifelong journey. Rasulullah’s (ﷺ) prophethood was 33 years. Pace yourself but always have Allah (SWT) at the forefront.
Muslim men are still men
You don’t have to be a certain “type” of person to be a practicing Muslim. Don’t write yourself off.
Hold onto your Salah.
Don’t romanticise marriage.
Trust your intuition.
You can still wear the hijab and navigate your connection to the religion.
Everyone’s journey/going back to Islam is different and that’s okay.
It’s going to be okay. You’ll make it through tomorrow & the next day. You were right to become Muslim. You found new friends and kept good old friendships too.
Allah is Merciful and you are worthy of His mercy.
Soften your speech and your heart
Come as you are. Don’t try to be perfect. Allah already knows all of your muck.
Your salah is your key to attaining happiness and prosperity in this life and the next. Guard it, cherish it and never let it go.
God is not the patriarchy. Don’t project on to him the issues you have with Muslim men / male religious figures.
Not everything needs to be stamped with a capital M or I for identity purposes; don’t fall into the dichotomy of us and them, or Islamic vs. non-Islamic, such dichotomies, for the most part, are ill-informed and inaccurate.
Allah wants you to win in every way, stop listening to those who make it seem like He is waiting to condemn you if you’re anything less than perfect. Talk to Him more, get to know Him for yourself
Istikhara and Tahajjud are your life’s guides. (No we are *NOT* talking about marriage here)
Don’t beat yourself up about fluctuating imaan. You’re human after all.
Keep your private good deeds greater in volume and sincerity than your public good deeds.
As long as you have your Salah, you will always find a way back. No matter what the problem or the sin, never lose sight of your prayer.
Kindness is your currency
It’s okay to not know. Be kind and patient with yourself, your faith is yours alone
Don’t ever forget Allah swt or Islam and watch how happiness and goodness follows. Remember Allah and you’ll save yourself a lot of sadness and hurt.
Learn tafseer of Quran alongside memorisation
It’s no one’s responsibility to make you happy, except yourself. Love yourself.
Don’t give in to societal expectations for marriage, body image, education or work etc.
Remove your negative associations of Islam that were the imprints of those who are its worst ambassadors. Allah is free of their imperfection, search for sincerity in whatever you do
This dunya and everything in it is temporary…moments, people, emotions, feelings, EVERYTHING!! So live for today and work for the hereafter.
Start hifdh without a deadline in mind
Your journey to understand yourself toward this religion will be a long journey and there’ll be no final form. Most important lesson for you will come in the form of people that you’ve met, it’ll blow your mind. Swipe away your tears, you’re intrinsically prepared for all of this.
Allah doesn’t want you to be perfect because you’d never be that, He just wants you to always do better, and be repentant.
Embrace the opportunities and gifts that Allah sends to you. My teacher once advised, “don’t focus on who you aren’t, focus on who He is.”
Every trial and tribulation you endure is preparing you for something greater so maintain hope.
There’s no right way to be Muslim. There’s just being human in front of Allah. Allah’s compassion is the code that writes all that He decrees. Don’t rely on your intellect to guide you to Him, let Him guide you to knowing Him. Be in complete trust.
Just be yourself. Don’t let others dictate how you should live your life. Oh, and that high status within your community you’re climbing for, stop that.
A little bit of knowledge makes a person arrogant, but deep knowledge & experience makes a person humble. Respect your elders, don’t think that you know better than everyone. Keep Reading & Learning. Maturity comes with knowledge
Even when you were utterly alone and without means, your Rabb was with you, guiding you, answering your duas
Put Allah first no matter what. Everything else will come in good time, and in ways you couldn’t imagine just because you prioritised your deen.
Be proud to be Muslim. Don’t wish to be anyone or anything else. Allah knows best. Just trust that.
God is merciful and understands that you’re human. He doesn’t ask for perfection, just sincerity and effort. So take it easy young fella
Your shortcomings don’t define you! And that God deals with you based on your best actions – not your worst ones.
“To whoever, male or female, does good deeds and has faith, We shall give a good life and reward them according to the best of their actions.” [Qur’an 16:97]
Embrace your identity for Allah ﷻ has opened your chest to Islam and guided you.
Complete every action with the sincerest of intentions to serve & seek the pleasure of Allah ﷻ and RasulAllah ﷺ.
Don’t place undue emphasis on outer appearances; instead focus on improving your inner, spiritual connection with your Creator
Don’t stress about not knowing how to pray or read the Qur’an. It gets easier with practice
You hold onto your religion in the most difficult time and that’s precious.
Where there is light, there’s truth and there’s no mimicking light. Overintellectualizing is ego based and the guidance He gives is more expansive.
Find a true spiritual teacher who will bring your heart to life.
You can’t pour from an empty cup – take care of yourself and you’ll be best placed to serve others.
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