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What Is Sexual Consent? Am I Doing It Right?

by in Lifestyle on 13th November, 2018

Consent, a topic that underpins relationships, sexual health, and wellbeing. It’s more than just saying “no” to something you don’t want to do, it’s about listening, discussing, and actively agreeing. Here at HANX we believe that sex is brilliant. Sex should be fun and positive and we should feel comfortable caring for this vital aspect of our wellness. And it all starts with consent.

What is consent?

Consent is permitting something to happen,  by giving permission or the agreement to do something.

What about sexual consent?

Consent in sex is actively agreeing to be sexual with someone. The crux here is that sexual activity without consent is rape or sexual assault. This is why it is super important, to be honest with your partner about what you want and what you don’t want. This is central to what we believe at HANX, not only to ensure you’re not doing anything you’re uncomfortable with but also to ensure pleasure and enjoyment.

Consent IS:

  • Informed. You can only consent to something if you know what it is you’re consenting to. If someone says they’ll use a condom, for example, and then they don’t, that’s not full consent.
  • Your choice. This is freely given without manipulation, and without the influence of drugs or alcohol.
  • Reversible. You can change your mind about what you want, at any time, even if it’s about something you’ve done before.
  • Something you want to do. With sex, you should only be doing something you want to, not what you think you should be doing or feel you are expected to do.
  • Specific to one thing. For example, saying yes to heading to the bedroom and kissing doesn’t mean you’re saying yes to have sex.

Consent is NOT influenced by:

  • what you wear
  • how you have behaved in the past
  • where you go
  • being silent

Ultimately, you are in control of your body and are in control of what happens to or with it. Your partner needs to respect that if you say “stop” at any time, it means stop, regardless of what has happened previously.

Dr. Hanx

Dr. Hanx

HANX is the first premium male condom designed uniquely with women in mind. We are empowering women around the world to think differently about sexual health. HANX is a brand that empowers women to overcome the fear of judgement and feel confident by protecting them when it comes to sex. Our condoms are made from fair trade, vegan certified and 100% natural latex. What’s more, they are ultra-thin, clean scented and packaged in discreet and luxurious boxes. Founded by childhood friends, Farah and Sarah, who have a shared passion for disrupting the status quo.