Your Sex Q’s Answered on Episode 4 of Lights On, With Angelica Lindsey-Ali

by The Amaliah Podcast in Podcast on 14th February, 2020

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Sex, intimacy and female pleasure within the context of Islam. These aren’t all too often talked about subjects within the muslim community. So we’ve brought in community scholar and sex expert, Angelica Lindsey-Ali, a.k.a our fave @villageauntie, to answer your questions, concerns and curiosities on all things related to sex, intimacy and body confidence every month on the Amaliah Podcast – so that we’re no longer in the dark…

We’ve picked from the crop of questions you’ve submitted to the podcast anonymously through our sex survey, and here’s what Angelica is answering this episode:

Q1.

My husband helps me orgasm through this hands. It takes somewhere between 10-15 minutes. He doesn’t complain but he later tells me his wrists hurt and he’s quite visibly a little bored during the whole thing since it’s the only thing he can focus on when he’s at it. Is there a quicker way for me to get there?

Q2.

We hear a lot about how we have to know our bodies in order to appropriately teach our partner how to please us. How do I navigate this? How would you recommend we explore ourselves?

Q3.

My partner loves dirty talk and so do I. But I can’t help but feel that it isn’t right in something as pure as an Islamic marriage. What are your thoughts on dirty talk in the Islamic context and via different mediums, for example sexting?

Q4.

My partner makes me feel sexy, but how can I make sure that my idea of sexiness and this self worth isn’t solely based on this? I don’t want how I feel about my body only attached to him and how he views me?

Q5.

I live with my in-laws. Me and my husband are newlyweds and it’s hard to get sex in, visiting hotels is also a no-no financially. How can we get intimate in a low key but satisfying way? I feel it’s affecting us a lot, I feel quite anxious and tense when we do it.

Q6.

I am single and constantly lusting after men and feeling turned on. What do i do? I don’t ever speak to any men so I’m not worried about doing something i shouldn’t. But it is so distracting being occupied with thoughts about men 24/7…

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Artwork by our beloved Lakshmi Hussein © find her at @thislakshmi on IG
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