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We knew it was time to turn to the Amaliah Community and ask for your advice on the red flags to look out for in a friendship and as always, you came through with your stellar observations.
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👯♀️ How can you tell if a friendship is toxic? What are the red flags to look out for?
QT with your answers ✨
— A M A L I A H (@Amaliah_Tweets) July 16, 2022
You are not being treated right:
Expecting you to solve their personal problems and worry about their issues as much as your own while they don’t offer you nearly the same level of concern, and getting offended if you’re too busy. https://t.co/BWga9x6u0a
— أسمو🕊 (@lilyofthewadi) July 17, 2022
constant one-upmanship. you tell them you’re sad? they’re devastated. you got promoted? they’re about to become king of their company. you cooked pasta? they’re going to italy to study under the last surviving pasta master https://t.co/AUyip2thwY
— Hashashin (@HashashinTag) July 16, 2022
🚩 Feeling drained or tired after meeting up with them or even when you’re about to get there
🚩 one upping
🚩letting you down
🚩not putting effort in
🚩when they message always thinking, do I have to respond to this https://t.co/G888ChFp5f
— Salma (@lifeisasentence) July 17, 2022
They refuse to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner
Your soul is at unease
Y’all really making an uncomplicated topic very complicated.
When you hang out with a friend and you feel good = good friend.
When you hang out with a friend and feel bad/drained = dump that friend https://t.co/qHinLB85KJ
— Jibby (@JibbyD) July 16, 2022
Just trust your instincts and if they are repeatedly telling you “ditch him/her” then do it. I cut off someone I’d been friends with for over 20 years a few years ago after I stopped making excuses for him. You’ll feel better afterwards. Trust me. https://t.co/eocgrBDXyD
— The Caliph (@GleamingRazor) July 17, 2022
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