We know that Amaliah is like a Big Sis and sometimes our DMs have been filled with requests for advice on a range of life issues including relationships, friendships or work troubles.

We have started a new segment where we field dilemmas from the community and answer them as frankly as we can with love, truth and honesty.

Need some advice on a dilemma? Send them all here!

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Dear Aunt Maya,

Me and my best friend have been friends for awhile. Recently she’s been busy with school due to finals, Ramadan and prepping for Eid but I miss her presence I’ve seen her interact with people on twitter while she still doesn’t reply back to me. I try not to think too much of it but sometimes I overthink. She reassures me but I still overthink, we’ve never fought or anything and always respected each other and we’re very open and communicate about it am I taking this too far?

Maya Areem responds

Salaam alaykum,

Thank you for confiding in me and for trusting me to help you through this. 

I understand how you feel, it’s completely natural to miss your best friend when life becomes overwhelmingly busy with work, school and other commitments.

Social media often paints an incomplete picture of our relationships and priorities, so It’s essential to remember that it is not a true reflection of her feelings towards you. It’s possible that your friend is simply overwhelmed with her current obligations and unintentionally overlooks or forgets to reply.

Based on your deep connection and history of open communication, it’s worth discussing your feelings with your friend. It’s important to communicate your emotions and let her know that you miss her. Assure her that you understand her commitments and are supportive of her priorities, but an occasional check-in would mean a lot to you. Try to schedule a call or a coffee at a time that’s convenient for both of you.

While waiting for her to get back to you, it’s crucial to focus on keeping yourself engaged with other friends and activities. Surrounding yourself with other people and pursuing your own interests will provide a positive distraction from overthinking the situation. Remember, friendships experience various phases, and with understanding and effective communication, you can navigate this period smoothly.

Here are a few additional reads to help you through the process: 

Amaliah Agony Aunt: Why Do I Doubt My Friendships Sometimes?

14 Lessons on Friendship From the Qur’an and Sunnah | Amaliah  

I pray that Allah eases your heart and fills your life with meaningful and nourishing relationships.

Love + duas, 

Aunt Maya

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